tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post6108676349949310534..comments2024-03-01T06:49:59.106-05:00Comments on Behind the Bit: Horses: So much more than a hobbyStacey Kimmel-Smithhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08498926535389535263noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-35540960345931669812010-12-04T17:02:49.872-05:002010-12-04T17:02:49.872-05:00My husband likes horses, and shortly after we met ...My husband likes horses, and shortly after we met we got one for him. We now trail ride and foxhunt together, and he jousts on his horse, while I event. <br /><br />We both have demanding full-time jobs, a fixer-upper house, not to mention two teenagers about to head off to college. Family comes first, but I really wouldn't have it any other way. We both pull equal weight around the house (jenjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01737679332792618499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-1659815845032243052010-12-04T13:38:17.283-05:002010-12-04T13:38:17.283-05:00Groan. I am in love with a complete NON HORSE per...Groan. I am in love with a complete NON HORSE person. I thought it was benign "don't like 'em". It was: Horses Are Evil Monsters.<br /><br />I've had to learn to translate what she says into what she really means. I got tossed. Not hurt. "I forbid you to ride again! We have kids, and family obligations!"<br /><br />Forbid? Red flag. Forbid isn't a Janehttp://www.theliteraryhorse.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-77223067511200920192010-12-04T09:24:51.378-05:002010-12-04T09:24:51.378-05:00Compromise! I have a horse, kids, business and hus...Compromise! I have a horse, kids, business and husband. <br /><br />It does take some finesse to keep everything running smoothly. My horse lives out 24/7 so days I don't make it to the barn, he chills in the field. <br /><br />I took up foxhunting rather than eventing, partially because it fits my schedule better and gives me the adrenalin high without spending the whole weekend at an event.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08065745422356630996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-28130011423025936722010-12-04T06:34:16.682-05:002010-12-04T06:34:16.682-05:00A lot of family friends, parent's friends and ...A lot of family friends, parent's friends and whomever always ask me why am I single? I spend time at work and at the barn. Barn has married men or boys who are way too young. <br /><br />Seeing so many unhappy friends who's husbands tell them me or the horse I've decided to be frank with any suitors. If you say me or the horses, you're out the door before you can say pony. <dressapphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07193260165913363839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-63729961519423626862010-12-04T00:07:12.703-05:002010-12-04T00:07:12.703-05:00My wife turned 50 shortly after our wedding, I had...My wife turned 50 shortly after our wedding, I had just become 54. Is that late in life? We decided together that we wanted to use our blessings by providing a therapeutic riding center to the community. Yes, we have more than one horse. Oddly though, we don't have a saddle big enough for my butt. I spend a good 6 hours a day with the horses, the dogs, and barn management with a rake and Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04869347350361395372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-77622424670535675232010-12-03T14:55:02.381-05:002010-12-03T14:55:02.381-05:00It goes like this. My spouse encourages and suppor...It goes like this. My spouse encourages and supports my love of my horse. I, in turn, do the same for his love of Basketball and coaching. We support it. Passions are SO important in life and in marriage and NO they don't have to be the same passion, in fact, I think better to be different. You dont lose your independence that way.<br />I know I'm lucky to have a husband who NEVER Kristen Eleni Shellenbargerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01458744919530540978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-79366534441296268192010-12-03T13:28:49.560-05:002010-12-03T13:28:49.560-05:00I think this is why I am single. I have a very de...I think this is why I am single. I have a very demanding job working for and traveling with the Federal Govt. But like Marissa says, it allows me to financially be able to keep these horses. When I come home on the weekend all I want to do is play with my horses. It leaves little time to meet anyone. And when I do, things go well until I bring them out to the barn. I keep saying I will keep Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10984295912656964300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-20252058812570906972010-12-03T10:52:34.757-05:002010-12-03T10:52:34.757-05:00I don't think you need to be married later in ...I don't think you need to be married later in life to have your husband comment on the disarray that comes from being a horse person. I got married in my early 20s to a person that proposed to me on horseback (I thought that I would get him riding but he still prefers machines) and he is constantly pointing out the corners of the house that are getting left behind while I'm cleaning Dawsonfamilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16027540248141972742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-4357156742052930022010-12-03T10:32:54.149-05:002010-12-03T10:32:54.149-05:00Luckily, my husband is just as passionate about hu...Luckily, my husband is just as passionate about hunting as I am about the horses, so even though he's not a horse guy, he gets the passion part of it. We just make sure that we have at least one night a week together. No kids yet, so we'll see how that goes. I just have to be careful to let him think that he is #1, since he suspects that he is third in line for my affection, behind my Michellenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-79982368404865975312010-12-03T09:27:04.434-05:002010-12-03T09:27:04.434-05:00I solved the dilemma by giving eldest daughter the...I solved the dilemma by giving eldest daughter the riding time and budget line in our family life. I take her out to the barn. I hang out with the horses and horsey people as much as I can, but I can also just leave her there if I'm needed to work or mind autistic youngest.<br /><br />If I had a million dollars, we'd both have horses and the time to enjoy them. And two cars so my husband Janicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14093558563358431804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-31681156449872557932010-12-03T09:00:01.933-05:002010-12-03T09:00:01.933-05:00Yes, horses take all my money and most of my time....Yes, horses take all my money and most of my time. I sold my horse when I was 20 so that I could have a life. Since then, marriage, jobs,and kids have kept me extremely busy but I when an opportunity came available for a horse I jumped at it. Had that horse two years and my husband caught the horse fever. We moved out to the country a few years later and have had horses ever since. I've ownedFantastyk Voyagerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15065772565014490544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-36935026409604268552010-12-03T08:35:39.135-05:002010-12-03T08:35:39.135-05:00I am blessed with a wonderful horsey husband. Year...I am blessed with a wonderful horsey husband. Years ago, before we married, he farmed with horses. He was the one responsible for getting me back into horses. My children, his step children, were raised w/ horses because of him. He is now 73 and I am 58, 25 years of marriage. He has had a horse from time to time. I am thankful for him, and I can tell you as passionate as I am about horses, I Kitty Bohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02030621211779302151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-22890953078784120902010-12-03T07:48:16.528-05:002010-12-03T07:48:16.528-05:00I just got married for the first time (I'm 46)...I just got married for the first time (I'm 46) in September. I'll keep you posted on how we do in the horse category. Even though my husband is a self proclaimed "ground squirrel" he IS a professional equine photographer. As long as I let him do some <a href="http://www.capturethelightequine.com/HorseandRider/Rider-and-Horse/14797837_2Fk5X#1102662152_ZucKm" rel="nofollow">Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11564627110822414614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-43012061211080422782010-12-03T01:50:49.644-05:002010-12-03T01:50:49.644-05:00I'm with Net - As an engineer with a really gr...I'm with Net - As an engineer with a really great and thriving career, I'm super busy, so any of my free time goes to the pony and then the puppy. I pay for a housekeeper, and I eat out, alot.<br /><br />For me, there's always been the "aw hell no" personality type that has kept me from finding too many candidates who could put up with me, much less my Horse-Priority. This Scarletthttp://vegasgrits.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-436062662056595202010-12-03T01:22:48.082-05:002010-12-03T01:22:48.082-05:00My husband has a demanding job and works long hour...My husband has a demanding job and works long hours, including many weekends and doesn't usually get home until after 10pm. I work full-time and spend 3-4 hours at the barn most evenings. If I didn't have a passion to fill my time, I'm afraid I would demand more time and attention than my husband could offer. Riding and barn chores keep me in good shape and is such an immediate stressVirginiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09455673205388768972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-7525929223022058962010-12-03T01:12:58.642-05:002010-12-03T01:12:58.642-05:00I am one of the fortunate few whose horses ARE my ...I am one of the fortunate few whose horses ARE my work! If there is one saying I live by, it's this: "Do what you love, and you'll never work a day in your life." I won't get rich doing it... but I don't care! I slaved away eight hours a day for The Man long enough to know what's good for me... <br />However.... between training horses, teaching students, trimming Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-31756021072382381822010-12-03T00:30:29.360-05:002010-12-03T00:30:29.360-05:00What is this "balance" you mention? I l...What is this "balance" you mention? I leave the house at 7, at school 8-2, work 3-11, then homework. Days off and weekends I try to sneak out to the barn if I don't have homework. Housework? Well, enough to keep the board of health at bay. 7yo son and I do homework together. Husband?... is THAT who that vaguely familiar man in my bed is...??Squeaksmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08593298885259460268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-3975870444623849672010-12-02T23:49:15.632-05:002010-12-02T23:49:15.632-05:00Im FREEEE from all that stuff
i go to skool and co...Im FREEEE from all that stuff<br />i go to skool and come hme bundle up in all my snow gear and hop on any horse of my choice<br />and i absolutly love it!Jodi Whitcombnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-3148945398425154382010-12-02T23:28:37.310-05:002010-12-02T23:28:37.310-05:00no poster has mentioned compromise. i found a wond...no poster has mentioned compromise. i found a wonderful rider to ride and love my horse 2-3 times a week so i have horse free days without guilt to spend with my husband. we also travel since his passion is hiking/camping, and i put my horse in daily training with my trainer while i'm gone, so it's a win-win. i love my horse, but marraige vows were "foresaking all others", so iAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-69579511279170174082010-12-02T22:40:24.411-05:002010-12-02T22:40:24.411-05:00I think this topic has struck a chord :) I'm l...I think this topic has struck a chord :) I'm lucky in that my husband is equally into horses and dressage. I can't imagine how hard it would be to be married to someone who resented the money and time.<br />Speaking of time, it's always a crunch. I posted about it recently too. Basically, I just do very little else besides work and ride. And I'm happy with that (but more down timeCarolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17207626703988850059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-42622517396455913572010-12-02T22:37:51.650-05:002010-12-02T22:37:51.650-05:00When we decided to buy our farm and bring the hors...When we decided to buy our farm and bring the horses (two at that time) "home" we had been doing self-care board for about 9 months, so my non-horsey husband did have a good idea what we were getting into. However, I don't know if he realized we would have 3 horses within 3 months of moving here, 4 within the next year, and two miniature donkeys the next!<br /><br />Half the time I billiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18187141867284800597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-88102991233407685142010-12-02T21:08:56.892-05:002010-12-02T21:08:56.892-05:00I knew that Jim was a keeper after riding two seas...I knew that Jim was a keeper after riding two seasons of fifty-mile rides with him, and we still wanted to talk to each other after the finish line. (that's what my mom calls a "clue." <br /><br />I don't think he's as nuts as I am, but he understands. He's also the one to waggle the truck keys under my nose when I'm making him nuts to indicate that I need to load AareneXhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17569818745110332355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-86526459142996018572010-12-02T20:45:43.538-05:002010-12-02T20:45:43.538-05:00My SO knows I am the way I am, LOL. He learned ve...My SO knows I am the way I am, LOL. He learned very quickly that horse time makes me happy, and if I'm happy, then HE'S happy. So in short order, he bought me a horse and insured that he could stay happy for a long time, ROFL.eventer79https://www.blogger.com/profile/03160817772061132147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-73253826611494947582010-12-02T20:41:28.053-05:002010-12-02T20:41:28.053-05:00No husband for me. It wouldn't be fair on them...No husband for me. It wouldn't be fair on them. Not many people are happy to be horse obsessed, have it consume massive amounts of their time and all their money. If I did find a man like that, he would also have to share my horse ideals. No, I am not a trail rider, yes the horses have a home for life, no they are not equine motor bikes, horses have feelings and are not things to make money kippen64https://www.blogger.com/profile/09349803809195454781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6317822193674196694.post-21962902872884504962010-12-02T19:40:59.155-05:002010-12-02T19:40:59.155-05:00My non-horsey husband indulges my need and lets me...My non-horsey husband indulges my need and lets me spend his money on it without complaint. He built me a barn and fenced in the pasture all by himself so I could have my thing. I try very hard never to complain about having to go out to barn in winter, dark, storms. I try to ask often, "what can I do to help you?" and "Why don't you go ride that bike you really enjoy?"Netherfieldmomhttp://underthegrowlight.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com